During adolescence, the human brain undergoes significant change with developmental processes still occurring until around the age of 26. Add this to all the other changes that happen during adolescence, and it is no wonder that this developmental period is sometimes referred to as a period of “storm and stress”.
During adolescence, the human brain undergoes significant change with developmental processes still occurring until around the age of 26. Add this to all the other changes that happen during adolescence, and it is no wonder that this developmental period is sometimes referred to as a period of “storm and stress”.
Unfortunately, some teenagers become victims of bullying and/or harassment, while others become perpetrators or bystanders.
What is bullying?
Bullying is an ongoing or repeated misuse of power in relationships, with the intention to cause deliberate harm. Bullying behaviours can be verbal, physical or social. It can happen anywhere – at home, online, with friends, in a group, on the bus, at work, or at school.
What can you do as a parent or guardian?
Bullying and harassment are never OK. The behaviours are hurtful and can impact someone for life.
If your child is a victim, listen to them; be empathic; contact the school, and ask your child if they have informed a teacher. Reassure your child that you are there for them and that they are not to blame (i.e. if they are the victim). Work with the school and seek support from a counsellor or psychologist.
If your child is the perpetrator of bullying, it is important to reinforce the message that their behaviour is not OK, and that you are there to help them. Seek the support of the school and a counsellor or psychologist. Modelling kindness and assertive communication skills consistently is a powerful teacher.
Sometimes individuals choose to be bystanders: they witness bullying and/or harassment occurring and do nothing about it. Such behaviour is also not OK. We need to empower our children to speak out against injustice, and let them know that we are there to support them. Encourage your child to speak to a teacher or trusted adult so that action can be taken to stop the bullying.
Fact sheets about bullying and violence can be accessed in many languages by clicking on the link below:
https://bullyingnoway.gov.au/Resources/FactSheets/Pages/For-parents-and-carers.aspx
Bullying and cyberbullying - beyondblue
www.youthbeyondblue.com/understand-what's-going-on/bullying-and-cyberbullying
An important message: when someone is being bullied there are two important things to think about – looking after yourself or the person being bullied, and taking action to try to stop the bullying. Tell them to stop. Walk away or ignore them. Talk to someone. Keep a diary. Report the abuse. Focus on looking after yourself.
Glenn Clifford
Director of Wellbeing
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