When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where the power is!
During times of uncertainty our resilience is tested because we are creatures of habit; we like to be in control, to have a degree of predictability. Although adolescence is often characterised by the pushing of boundaries as young people seek to develop their sense of self, they also seek security and predictability. The current global COVID-19 pandemic has and is testing all of us in different ways, and for teenagers, the effects might sometimes be amplified given where they are in their development.
So what can you do as parents and carers to support your daughter/s as they navigate the current state of uncertainty? Keeping in mind the uniqueness of every individual, We offer in good faith some tips that we hope you find helpful.
- Establish and maintain a healthy routine of sleep, mealtimes, study and relaxation.
- Make time to do fun things together.
- Set boundaries that are realistic and which have enforceable consequences, and explain these to your daughter so that she understands your expectations.
- Look for positive behaviours and make them known to your daughter. E.g. “Kerri, I’m really proud of you for sticking at that task knowing how difficult it was for you!”
- If your daughter presents with a problem, model good problem solving and coping strategies by engaging in calm, empathetic discussion. Listen openly. Share ideas and strategies that reflect respect, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, and so on.
- Encourage regular exercise.Value and make time for relaxation (being online does not relax the brain!)
- Help your daughter stay connected to friends and family.
- Create and use a Gratitude board or journal in which you record daily, one thing you are thankful for.
- Encourage your daughter to do something helpful for others.
- Acknowledge and validate uncomfortable emotions, and emphasise their impermanence (the emotions will pass and things will improve).
Further resources can be found at:
greatergood
healthyfamilies
raisingchildren
Glenn Clifford
Director of Wellbeing
